BFD-EUME held a “Refresh your Blessing” webinar from the end of June to the beginning of July. It consisted of a series of five evening seminars for older Blessed couples who want to improve their relationship in order to build a Holy Community of God-centered families. The target group was couples who had been Blessed for more than 25 years. The vision was to create a warm and embracing atmosphere where couples could take time to work on their relationship.
Last week I posted a blog about establishing a personal zero tolerance for anger. Click here to read that blog. I should have anticipated—but did not—a question that would naturally follow what I said. One woman wrote:
“I understand the disadvantages of anger, but how do you say something important to your husband when he doesn’t ever communicate and rarely honors his agreements? Sometimes anger is the only thing that works with someone like that.”
Relationship researcher and therapist John Gottman, has shown that relationships are strengthened when couples engage in 5 positive interactions for every 1 negative interaction. By taking on this challenge you’ll create an awareness about how you interact with your partner. Many of the suggested actions follow Gary Chapman‘s 5 Love Languages, so there is an action to meet the need of every partner! You may also begin interacting with one another in ways you haven’t in months, years or maybe ever. Sounds like a good way to add some spark to the everyday routine!