Last week I posted a blog about establishing a personal zero tolerance for anger. Click here to read that blog. I should have anticipated—but did not—a question that would naturally follow what I said. One woman wrote:
“I understand the disadvantages of anger, but how do you say something important to your husband when he doesn’t ever communicate and rarely honors his agreements? Sometimes anger is the only thing that works with someone like that.”
Relationship researcher and therapist John Gottman, has shown that relationships are strengthened when couples engage in 5 positive interactions for every 1 negative interaction. By taking on this challenge you’ll create an awareness about how you interact with your partner. Many of the suggested actions follow Gary Chapman‘s 5 Love Languages, so there is an action to meet the need of every partner! You may also begin interacting with one another in ways you haven’t in months, years or maybe ever. Sounds like a good way to add some spark to the everyday routine!
To nail parenting, you have to place your marriage before parenting.
Before the kids came along, it was just you and your spouse.
And guess what, when your kids are all grown up and move out…
It will once again, just be you and your spouse.
I know this sounds bizarre, but our children will grow up and start a family of their own. It’s our job as parents to show them what unity in marriage looks like. What love looks like. What a healthy argument sounds like. Most importantly, how to communicate with your spouse.
Yes. They are hard and they suck most of the time. Can’t deny that. But this kind of relationship has many perks too! You just need to remember them more often. It’s always good to look at the bright side of any situation. And if you are blessed to be in one. You will understand these 11 benefits of long distance relationships. Don’t forget: in the long term, they are totally worth it. Read more…